Page 300-"But honey, I love you"-"When a relative who has abused you, not protected you, not believed you or still doesn't support you in a whole hearted way says "I love you", you are apt to feel confused and disturbed.
Page 45-Spacing Out
Page 58-59- The Stages Of Recovery
The Decision To Heal
The Emergency Stage
Remembering
Believing It Happened
Breaking Silence
Understanding That It Wasn't Your Fault
Making Contact With The Child
Trusting Yourself
Grieving & Mourning
Anger- The Backbone Of Healing
Disclosures & Confrontation
Forgiveness?
Spirituality
Resolution & Moving On
Page 123-Denying & Twisting Anger/Lashing Out
Page 124-Getting In Touch With Your Anger
Page 125-Working Through Mother Blame
Page 127-Fear Of Anger
Page 129-Positive Expressions Of Anger
-Speak out
-Writer letters (To send or privately for yourself to release)
-Pound on the bed with a tennis racket
-Break old dishes
-Scream (get a friend to scream with you)
-Create an anger ritual (burn an effigy on the beach)
-Take a martial arts course
-Organise a survivors march
-Volunteer at a recycling centre & smash glass
-Dance an anger dance
-Page 140-Protecting Other Children
-Page 148-Writing A Confrontation/Writing Exercises
-Page 153-But They Had A Bad Childhood
Page 154-Reconstructing Family History
Page 180-Changing Internalised Messages/ The Most Common One Liners
Page 187-Nurture Yourself-The Teddy Bear's Picnic
Page 194/195-Exercises For Getting In Touch With Your Feelings
Page 198/199- Learning To Live Without Violence
Page 200-Controlling Abusive Anger
Page 202-Things To Do When I'm Desperate: 1)Breathe 2)Get Teddy Bear 3)Put On Relaxation Tape 4)Rocking Chair 5)Call Friend X 6)Call Friend Y If Friend X Not Available 7)Stroke Cat 8)Hot Bath 9)Write a hundred times "I'm safe. I love myself. Other's love me," or "It's safe for me to relax now" 10)Run around the block three times 10)Listen To Soothing Music 11)Pray 12)Yell Into Pillow 13)Watch Old Movie/Tv/Read Mystery Novel 14)Eat Macaroni & Cheese 15)Start Again From The Top
Page 208-From Hating Your Body To Loving Your Body
Page 209- From Splitting To Being In Your Body
Page 210-From Numbness To Feeling
Page 211-From Ignoring your Body To Listening To Your Body
Page 220-Self Defence: From Victim To Victor
Page 228-Confusing The Past With The Present
Page 229-Don't Come Near Me
Page 230-Fear Of Love
Page 440-Resources For Ritual Abuse Survivors
Page 462-Support Groups
Page 463-Starting A Group
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